Question 6:
One day, over breakfast, my girlfriend casually brought up incorporating something bizarre into our sexual routine. I was surprised but thought it would be fun to try, and she suggested sploshing. However, I’m not keen on the idea of eating my breakfast off her, especially when it’s, say, my favorite meal of nasi lemak and coffee. I could pretend to enjoy it but I have an extremely strong gag reflex. How do I talk to her about this?

Dr. Martha Lee Sploshing is a sexual and sensual food party, in which participants cover each other in foods of different tastes, textures, and temperatures. Eating the food off each other is optional. Have an open conversation with your girlfriend and understand what her specific ideas about engaging in such activities are. For instance, does she see herself being the dominant, the “top,” “in charge,” or being the submissive, the “bottom,” the subservient partner? Ask her what she already knows and if she has had any prior experience. You most definitely want to get educated first before agreeing to engage in any activity!

David Tian Well, it sounds like you and your girlfriend have a very lively sex life! Congratulations! A good time to bring this up would be the next time you’re in bed in post-coital bliss. To be honest, I’m having a hard time imagining how the coffee part is supposed to work. Does she want you to balance the hot cup on her tummy as if she were a table? Or does she want to be coated in coffee and have you lick it off her? If that’s not your cup of tea, suggest an alternative. How about starting with something everyone likes, like chocolate-dipped strawberries and whipped cream? Or how about edible panties?

Mrs. Ivy Singh-Lim Well, it sounds like you and your girlfriend have a very lively sex life! Congratulations! A good time to bring this up would be the next time you’re in bed in post-coital bliss. To be honest, I’m having a hard time imagining how the coffee part is supposed to work. Does she want you to balance the hot cup on her tummy as if she were a table? Or does she want to be coated in coffee and have you lick it off her? If that’s not your cup of tea, suggest an alternative. How about starting with something everyone likes, like chocolate-dipped strawberries and whipped cream? Or how about edible panties?

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