From medical issues to erotic trends, the founder of Eros Coaching and clinical sexologist talks to us about the naughty stuff.

What are common issues (for both men and women) that you’ve heard over and over again?
Vaginismus (painful or impossible vaginal penetration) remains the number one reason couples come to see me. Others include low sex drive, sexual problems after having a baby, and erectile difficulties—just to name a few. For the younger male population, I’m noticing complaints about the ease and duration of erection related to frequent porn use. By being overly-dependent on porn for arousal, many men are not learning about their bodies and their masturbation patterns are preventing them from being comfortable and confident with their sexual performance.

Is there anything Singaporeans should do to be better lovers?
We’ve become so dependent on being plugged in that it’s so common for people to check their phones, even during sex. Singaporeans should learn to do one thing at a time. People who can’t slow down and focus their attention on themselves and on their partners will have less fulfilling sexual experiences in the long run.

Noticed anything new and trending in the world of sex?
Google Glass. The word that came to mind was spectatoring, which does not necessarily help with being present with a partner.

Any sex advice?
First of all, it’s not just about penetrative sex. There are many ways in which you can be sexually intimate, like with sex toys. It’s important to be comfortable and confident in your sexuality by yourself. Secondly: Learn. There’s a ton of information out there. The more you know, the less afraid you’ll be. Also, seek help early. Sex is not necessarily a taboo topic. Many people do recognize the role of sex in one’s wellbeing and are seeking professional support.

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Enjoy a special Valentine’s Day brunch, dine with iconic culinary maestros, rock out at plenty more music festivals—there’s just so much to do this February. 

Don’t miss Bane, a hilarious one-man, one-musician performance by comedic duo Joe Bone and Ben Roe. February 8-9

Based on George Bernard Shaw's 1912 play Pygmalion, My Fair Lady’s a must-see Broadway production where (Cockney) girl meets (stuffy high society) boy. February 11-23

Go crazy with a free flow buffet spread of Italian creations from sweet treats to hot mains during the Cupid Love Brunch, a Valentine's Day special at Senso. February 16

Run for a good cause in the iconic Terry Fox Run, where you can choose to race 5km or 10km to help raise funds for the Singapore Cancer Society. February 16

Sample the creations of two renowned chefs—Joan Roca and Andre Chiang—during 4 Hands, an exclusive one-night-only dinner in support of the victims affected by the Typhoon Haiyan disaster in the Philippines. February 21

Kicking off new live music series The Gathering, Aussie act Empire Of The Sun will perform electronic songs from their two albums. February 21

Watch some of world's best sailing teams battle it out in the Extreme Sailing Series, a high-octane race on the waters off Singapore. February 21-23

Highly regarded urban music festival Hostess Club Weekender debuts in Singapore's Fort Canning Park, with The National, Mogwai and many more in tow. February 22

NÓNG by Edible Gardens is an exciting pop-up concept that aims to up the ante for the urban farming scene, featuring exhibitions, art displays, workshops and more. Through March 31

Catch Dinosaurs: Dawn to Extinction, an amazing large-scale dinosaur exhibition of over 400 fossils and models, some of which are on public display for the very first time. Through July 27

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