DJ “Eaky” Euesungkomsate Talks Life, Sex and Family

The flamboyant DJ Ekachai “Eaky” Euesungkomsate, 37, who was once a member of leading Thai boy band, U.H.T., opens up about sex and gender roles as he stars as a promiscuous gay man in new flick, Virgin I Am.

By Monruedee Jansuttipan | Aug 23, 2012

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  • DJ “Eaky” Euesungkomsate Talks Life, Sex and Family

I dreamt of being a singer since I was a kid. I was inspired by famous singers like Bird Thongchai. I started practicing with a karaoke machine that I bought myself, by saving up my pocket money. My friends later encouraged me to enter singing competitions.

I was really shy when I first took to the stage. I didn’t know how to sing well enough to impress the crowd. But I got to love it more and more. I wanted to entertain people.

Once, I even danced with my guitar to make the audience like me better, because I knew I couldn’t win with just my voice.

One day my dad told me to send a demo to GMM after he heard that they were seeking new faces. But it didn’t work out until I was called in to join the game show Game Hot Pleng Hit.

I didn’t win the show but they hired me anyway. They saw how much I loved entertaining people. Then I became a member of U.H.T. which was a successful boy band back then.

I never imagined doing anything else but singing. But when the U.H.T. project finished and I had a chance to be a DJ and MC, I fell in love with that too. Now, I’ve spent so much time being a DJ and MC, I don’t feel confident when I have to sing again. I don’t even know how to pose or what to do with my hands.

So what if I used to be in this famous boy band and have a gay look. It’s not awkward to me. I do everything I do fully. And it’s all natural.

I’m not going to confirm whether or not I am gay. I don’t want to lie. And I don’t want to make an announcement. I want everyone to look at my work, not my love life. You guys will get an answer when I get married. If I marry a man, it’s yes; if I marry a woman, then that’s a no.

Sex is like eating. It up to you to decide when  to stop, when you feel you’d had enough. If  you’re addicted to it, your life will be a mess.  Everything has two sides, so do what’s right.

The third gender’s love life is actually like straight people’s. Straight people might see the third gender as love gurus but we have plenty of depression, sadness and heartbreak in our lives, too.

The character in my latest movie isn’t even remotely close to the real me. He is openly gay and believes that having sex is just something for fun. But I believe that we should have sex when the time is right.

Experience will teach you to protect yourself. I was heartbroken because I didn’t love myself enough. My ex-lover is a cheater but I tried to convince myself that I was just paranoid. At the end, my fears were actually true.

Love is uncertain. No one owns anyone. I think that it’s all down to karma. I might have hurt someone in my last life so they came to get revenge in this life. Just forgive and move on.

You will find love when you’re not looking for it. There are many people who come to flirt with me but I don’t click with any of them. Maybe my brutal love experiences have taught me to separate between love and infatuation. Your feelings are the best clue to know who is right for you.

I love to do live shows, where things don’t have to be perfect. I do mostly interviews and my style of talking must feel natural. I don’t like faking it. I’m most happy when we can record the show in one take.

I’m a workaholic because I’ve found what I love to do. I can get bored easily without work.

My parents are my biggest inspiration. They didn’t get a proper education but they managed to raise five children. At one point, they had only B20 left to feed all of us. More importantly, we never found out [until much later]. They really sacrificed themselves for us.

Parents are like our children when they get older. We have to take care of them as best as we can. Some people only realize this when it’s too late.

Parents’ jobs look easy when they raise you, but when you start to earn money and try to raise someone on your own, then you understand how hard it is. So give them support while you can, you’ve got the rest of your life to make more money [for yourself].

My success is beyond my expectations. I already felt complete as a singer and I’m still doing what I love.

I don’t want to be rich. I have my TV production company called Eaky Mouth to do shows for TV. But I don’t want it to expand and become too big. I don’t want to work hard until I have no time to appreciate the things surrounding me.

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